CONSENT HARBOUR

Community Guidelines

Version 1.1 · Effective October 12, 2026.

Consent Harbour is a community for adults to connect, learn, and discuss BDSM and kink with consent and respect. These guidelines apply to profiles, images, private messages, feedback, groups, posts, replies, stories, story comments, and events. They also apply to using the website to arrange or encourage conduct that violates these rules.

Adults only

You must be 18 or older to participate. Do not misrepresent your age, help minors access the site, or share sexual content involving anyone under 18. Report suspected underage accounts or content involving minors promptly. Do not download or redistribute suspected illegal material.

Consent comes first

Ask before sexual conversation, explicit images, personal requests, or moving a conversation outside the website. Consent must be freely given, specific to the activity, and ongoing. It can be withdrawn at any time.

A profile interest, relationship role, connection, previous interaction, or event response does not give permission for anything else. Silence, uncertainty, or lack of resistance is not agreement.

Never pressure someone to explain a refusal, share an image, reveal their identity, meet, or continue a conversation. Respect pauses and changes of mind.

Respect people and their boundaries

Treat members with dignity regardless of gender, sexuality, disability, race, religion, experience, relationship structure, or consensual interests.

No harassment, threats, stalking, hate speech, humiliation without consent, coercion, or exploitation. Consensual roleplay does not excuse conduct directed at someone who has not agreed to it.

Respect names, pronouns, stated boundaries, and communication preferences. Different interests are not a reason to shame someone. Disagree with ideas respectfully; do not attack people.

Private messages and unwanted contact

Begin with a respectful introduction. Do not send unsolicited explicit messages or images. An invitation to chat is not permission to send sexual content.

If someone declines contact, blocks you, or asks you to stop, stop. Do not create another account, ask someone else to contact them for you, or follow them to another service to evade that boundary.

Do not demand immediate replies or use repeated messages to pressure someone. Use reporting and blocking tools when needed.

Protect privacy

Do not publish or forward another person’s messages, photos, intimate details, real name, contact information, workplace, or location without their permission. Do not threaten to expose someone’s identity or participation in this community.

Upload identifiable or intimate images of other adults only when you have their permission to share them with the selected audience. Remove content if that permission is withdrawn.

You may provide relevant evidence privately through reporting or support channels to seek help. Share only what is necessary and do not post accusations or sensitive evidence publicly.

Images and other content

Use accurate profile information and images you have the right to share. Do not impersonate another person or present someone else’s photo as yourself.

Explicit adult content requires the recipient’s agreement and must comply with the website’s feature-specific restrictions and review requirements. Do not assume public profiles, group posts, or event listings are appropriate places for explicit material.

Do not upload sexual content involving minors, non-consensual intimate images, recordings of abuse or exploitation, threats, or content that promotes unlawful harm. Profile images require moderation approval. Private message images appear immediately for eligible connected members after the sender’s adult verification is approved; they remain subject to reporting and removal. Do not upload images depicting sexual acts or graphic sexual activity. Do not bypass profile image review or repost content removed by moderation.

Consent to creating an image is separate from consent to uploading or sharing it.

Be honest and avoid exploitation

Do not falsify verification information, qualifications, identities, event details, or relationships. Be clear when discussing personal experience rather than professional expertise.

No scams, fraudulent requests, spam, unsolicited advertising, or pressure for money, gifts, services, or sexual activity. Do not exploit someone’s inexperience, vulnerability, dependency, or trust.

Groups discussions and learning

Keep posts relevant to the group or discussion and make room for different perspectives. Respect any additional group rules that are consistent with these guidelines.

Do not turn disagreements into personal attacks, encourage pile-ons, or use groups to shame or target members. Describe sensitive experiences thoughtfully and avoid unnecessary identifying details.

Advice and personal experiences are not guarantees of safety. Do not present risky practices as safe for everyone or discourage people from seeking qualified medical, mental health, or other professional help.

Community Stories

Community Stories supports fiction and personal experiences, including graphic adult writing. All sexual content must involve adults aged 18 or older. Mark graphic writing with the Contains graphic adult content checkbox and keep the separate listing preview non-graphic. The Graphic content badge lets members choose what they read; do not send explicit writing to someone who has not agreed to receive it.

Respect other people’s privacy and obtain permission before identifying real people or sharing their private details. Posting anonymously hides your byline from members; the owner and moderators can still identify the author for moderation. Details in the writing may identify you or others. The same reporting and conduct rules apply to anonymous posts and comments.

Events and meeting in person

Describe events honestly, including their purpose, expectations, and relevant participation requirements. Protect attendees’ personal information.

Joining an event, choosing “going,” or arriving in person never implies consent to touch, play, photography, sexual activity, or a relationship. Ask separately and respect each person’s answer.

Follow venue rules and applicable requirements. Verification badges and event listings do not guarantee a person or event is safe. Take your own precautions and seek help if you feel unsafe.

Reports and moderation

Use the available report tools or contact support@consentharbour.com if you encounter a violation or need help. Give an honest description and relevant evidence. Do not make knowingly false reports or retaliate against someone for raising a concern.

The owner and authorized moderators may review relevant information, hide or remove content, restrict features, suspend accounts, or end access. Serious concerns may require immediate action without a warning.

If you believe a decision was mistaken, contact support to request a review. Respect others’ privacy during the review and do not recreate removed content or evade restrictions.

The website is not an emergency service. For immediate danger, contact local emergency services.

Related policies

The Terms of Use explain account responsibilities and conditions of service. The Privacy Policy explains information handling, visibility, and administrative access.

We may update these guidelines as the community develops. Material changes will be communicated to members. If you are unsure whether something is appropriate, ask support before posting or sending it.