Relationship structures
Polyamory
A relationship approach allowing multiple romantic or loving partnerships with the knowledge and agreement of those involved.
Other names and related terms: Poly, Polyamorous relationships
Understanding the topic
Polyamory describes relationship possibilities rather than a required number of partners or a particular group configuration. Someone can identify as polyamorous while having one partner or none. Kink roles and polyamory are separate questions, and people need not date everyone connected to a partner.
A relationship label provides a starting point for discussing commitments, not a complete agreement. People may differ about exclusivity, time, emotional involvement, privacy, and future plans. Kink preferences and relationship structures are separate: being dominant, submissive, or a switch does not establish which relationship structure someone wants.
Consent and communication
Negotiate commitments with each partner and be honest about existing obligations. Do not offer another person's participation.
Make agreements with the people directly affected and avoid promising someone else’s participation. Each person retains the ability to decline a relationship or renegotiate their own commitments. Honesty does not require distributing other partners’ private details without permission.
A practical example
A person explains that they date independently and that meeting their other partner is optional.
Common misunderstandings
Polyamory does not mean everyone in a network has a romantic or sexual relationship with everyone else.
Safety and risk awareness
Time, privacy, health agreements, and unequal expectations require discussion. No label replaces accountability.
Questions to consider
What commitments can I realistically offer?
Related topics
More on this topic (10)
- Solo polyamoryA polyamory approach emphasizing personal autonomy without necessarily seeking shared-home or merged-life partnerships.
- Hierarchical polyamoryPolyamory involving explicitly or practically different levels of priority or commitment.
- Non-hierarchical polyamoryA polyamory approach that avoids preset ranking of partners.
- Kitchen-table polyamoryA preference for friendly interaction among partners and metamours.
- Parallel polyamoryA preference for keeping different relationships and metamour contact relatively separate.
- Garden-party polyamoryA label for occasional cordial network interaction without extensive daily involvement.
- PolyfidelityA relationship agreement limiting additional romantic or sexual involvement within a defined group.
- Comet partnerA relationship connection maintained through intermittent or infrequent meetings.
- Nesting partnerA term commonly used for a partner with whom someone shares a home.
- Anchor partnerA context-dependent term for a significant or grounding partner.
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